Seven ways to shatter your inner glass ceiling
Thursday, May 2, 2013
By Lisa Martin
about the concept of a glass ceiling that prevents more women from advancing to
the highest levels of business and government. But consider for a moment that
you may also have a personal glass ceiling – a limiting self-belief about what
you’re capable of, preventing you from fully thriving.
self-beliefs are sneaky. Your first reaction may be, "I’m a leader. I totally
believe in myself. Of course I’m not sabotaging my own advancement and
But dig a bit
deeper. Look a little more closely. When you do, you may tune into some pretty
nasty thoughts you hold about yourself, your abilities and your possibilities.
This is the stuff of your inner glass ceiling. And don’t underestimate it –
it’s just as real and effective as any external glass ceiling. Possibly more
Limiting beliefs come
in many varieties, but here are some examples:
- "When I get my
hopes up, things always fall apart.”
- "If I don’t worry
and work myself to the bone, I may lose everything I have.”
- "If I want
something done right, I have to do it myself.”
and you will help yourself blow past old, tired patterns. It will allow you to
overcome obstacles, end bad habits, adopt new personality traits, gain
confidence and lower stress.
It can take your
leadership capabilities to an entirely new level, allowing you to achieve more
than you even imagined and setting a new tone for everyone on your team.
do you want to shatter your inner glass ceiling to smithereens? Here are some
steps to take:
1. You’ve got to want it.
Your level of desire to change a limiting belief determines the ease and speed
of transformation. Smokers who are told they have lung cancer often suddenly
give it up overnight because they have a powerful, unstoppable desire for
2. Become aware of the defeating belief.
Pay attention to your words. What do you tell others and yourself you cannot
do? Listen to the excuses you give yourself for not doing things. Listen to
your fears. See if you can zero in on a phrase that defines each fear.
3. Know the price you are paying.
Reflect on the cost to you and others of not changing this belief. Consider how
your personal limits may also be limiting your team.
4. Believe you can change your mind.
Remind yourself this belief is only a concept and it can be altered.
5. See the structure of your defeating
Imagine a long wooden table with four legs supporting it. The tabletop
represents the defeating belief and the legs represent the evidence and experience
that created the belief. What legs are supporting your table?
6. Create a power belief. Intentionally create a power belief that will serve and support
you. "Whenever I get my hopes up, things work out.” This becomes your new
7. Live out your power belief. Deliberately and
continuously look for evidence (new legs for the table) that supports your new
determine your destiny. They will determine your financial prosperity and the
ease with which you receive it. They will determine how you leverage your
leadership and the tone you set for your team. Align your beliefs with your
aspirations. That’s how you thrive.
Lisa Martin is a leadership coach,
speaker and author who has been helping people thrive for the past 15 years. Her online coaching program is The Thrive
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