“Male peers socialize without me. What should I do?”
Sunday, June 1, 2014
Posted by: Barbara Francella
The men on my
team often socialize outside of work, something my responsibilities outside the
office doesn't allow. Am I missing out?
Unfortunately, the good ol’ boys’ clubs are
alive and well in corporate America today.
As a result, they like to hang out together. And there’s nothing wrong
with that, but business decisions often get made during those off-site or
afternoon activities. This has put you in a situation where you could be
answer your question: Yes, you are missing out.
But you can do something about it.
As a business leader, you have to build
strategic relationships to win. And
leveraging those relationships requires time. If you can’t attend activities after
hours, then you will have to create other opportunities to get the inside scoop
about what happens in those "special evenings” or golf outings.
Simply put, you need a peer ally. But getting a
peer ally is easier said than done. The current compensation systems in
corporate America don’t promote collaboration, even though collaboration is
exactly what your company may say it wants in its leaders.
Be intentional about "putting yourself in the
mix.” Whether it is breakfast, lunch or
just hanging out in your peers’ offices, you need to make sure your voice is
heard (and that their voices are heard).
Trudy Bourgeois is happy to answer your career
questions. Please email them to NEW Communications Manager Barbara Grondin Francella.
Trudy Bourgeois is founder and CEO of The Center for
Workforce Excellence and NEW Executive Leaders Forum conference
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