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Your Career

The way you're viewed in the world — and how you view yourself — will shape your career.
“You can’t do it.” “You’re crazy.” “You aren’t smart enough.” “You’re different and you don’t belong.” “It will never happen.” “Why do you want to do that?”
More than 15 years ago, I came up with the idea to start the Network of Executive Women because I wanted to bring women together to support one another. It worked!
Countless research studies on gender and negotiation, power, promotion, pay gap and productivity have been hurled into public consumption, chewed and digested by all forms of media, then interpreted into “good advice for women” by well-meaning managers, trainers and consultants — myself included.
A few months ago, I attended the National Association of Female Executive Women's Leadership Summit and had the privilege of hearing leadership coach Bonnie Marcus. Marcus kicked off her talk with a personal story of being blindsided when she did not get a promotion she deserved.
“The mind is the master-weaver, both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of circumstance.” — James Allen, As A Man Thinketh
We are all so busy and trying to do so much with so little. Rarely do we stop, think and reflect. We are busy executing and doing whatever it takes to meet deadlines. We rarely take time to step back and reflect on whether the things we are doing will really move the needle.
Asking for what you want is an empowering act. But the power of asking depends on knowing what you want and fully believing you deserve it.
Networking is essential to business success, yet it tends to be a low priority for many busy professionals. I can’t stress this enough: Establish your network now, when you don’t need it, so it’s there when you do.
Much like a computer, your brain responds to programming. But reprogramming your thinking is a lot harder than upgrading your computer -- many of your current unwanted behaviors stem from unconstructive programming you received as a child, and these old ideas can stand in the way of change.