4 ways to breathe new life into your mentorship

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Have conversations with your mentor gotten a bit repetitive lately?

Perhaps you approached someone you admire and bravely asked that person to become your mentor. And they said "Yes." But a year into the relationship, those monthly mentoring meet-ups don't seem to invigorate you like they used to, and they aren't quite as energizing for them, either.

In short, you suspect the mentorship may have run its course. The fact is, sometimes it's not the relationship that's stale — you just need some fresh material to discuss. So why not reinvigorate those mentoring sessions by preparing a thoughtful, diverse slate of questions ahead of time?

Here are four types of questions to prepare ahead of every mentoring conversation that will keep things interesting — and valuable — for you and your mentor:

1. Stories. Hey, everybody likes to talk about themselves! Ask your mentor to tell a story from his or her own career. For example, you could ask, "How did you get to where you are today?" or "Was there a time you messed up and felt like you'd failed? What did you do to recover?" or "What do you wish you had known before your first management role?"

2. Situations. Bring a situation that you'd like your mentor's help navigating. For example, "I tried to delegate a task last week and it did not go as well as I'd expected. Can you help me think through what to do differently next time?" or "I have these two very different career path options and would like your help making a decision" or "How can I let my boss know that I don't need to be micromanaged?"

3. Self-awareness. One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is the gift of self-awareness, meaning the ability to see yourself as others perceive you. That way, if you like how you're perceived, you can embrace it and take steps to strengthen that positive perception. If you don't like how you are currently perceived, you can take steps to change that perception to a more positive one.

Your mentor can help by "holding up the mirror" and giving you feedback on how your actions and communication are impacting the way others see you. Ask a question, such as, "When I presented in that meeting last week, how did I do?" or "Could you give me feedback on ways to improve my leadership presence?" or "Am I coming across as high-maintenance when I send my boss weekly status updates?"

4. Skill-building. Is there a skill you're currently working to enhance, such as project management, long-term strategic planning, delegating or public peaking? Ask your mentor for advice and resources that will help you polish that skill.

By preparing a new variation of each one of these four questions before every mentoring conversation, you can all but guarantee that you'll have interesting conversations for years to come.

Bonus: Share this list with those you mentor and encourage them to prep ahead of time. You'll never sit through another mentoring conversation wondering if the other person is finding the relationship useful.

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Jo Miller, a women’s leadership speaker and founding editor of BeLeaderly.com, has hosted the NEW Leadership Academy webinar series since 2013.

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