Sales Capability Manager
"Being a single mother is challenging. I carefully consider the types of positions I apply for, so that I don't disrupt my family life. If a role calls for too many early meetings or too many late nights, I can’t do it. My career needs to be fulfilling, but I'm very careful with my career steps.
I try to never let my daughter see me too disgruntled or upset, because I want her to see how women can be in strong, empowering positions. If that means I sometimes have to put my work down at 5 p.m. and start again at 9 p.m., so be it. It’s a balance.
I have a support system — my mom, friends, family — that I count on if I have to work late or be at an early-morning meeting. I also get together with friends who are single parents or who have kids my daughter's age; we let the kids play and I use the time to finish up work.
But all of my managers have been accommodating. They encourage me to leave in the middle of the day for a school activity or, if my daughter doesn't feel well, to work at home. There are times you have to pause, take a deep breath and not freak out. You figure out how to make it work.
My advice for other single working moms: Be true to yourself. Don't be afraid to ask for help and don’t let your lack of help limit you. Go for that promotion or that new job. But be realistic about what you can handle with the resources you have."